Category: Imperfection and Vulnerability

The Zero Step

The final step of Alcoholics Anonymous, virtually all 12-step programs, speaks of a spiritual awakening and carrying the message.

The journey toward the much needed awakening has to start somewhere. Step one reads, “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol (substitute: drugs, gambling, sexual additions, food)—that our lives had become unmanageable.” Continue reading

Engage in personal vulnerability as if it will be your next big adventure.

Brené Brown wrote, in her book ‘Daring Greatly’, “We can’t give people what we don’t have … [but] … Who we are matters immeasurably more than what we know or who we want to be.” In other words, just show up.

Many of us experience vulnerability, not being enough, and occasionally shame. When we don’t value who we are we disengage. Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, wrote, “Disengagement is the issue underlying the majority of problems I see in families, schools, communities, and organizations …”

In the TED talk below, Brown says, “We live in a vulnerable world. And one of the ways we deal with it is that we numb vulnerability….We are the most in debt, obese, addicted, and medicated adult cohort in US history.” She goes on to describe how we mistakenly attempt to ‘selectively numb’ what we want not to feel.

Thank you Brené for your insight and passion. I highly recommend her books. And thank you also to Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham for their work on, ‘The Spirituality of Imperfection’.